“A few years ago, when I was first introduced to Evan, I was feeling increasingly frustrated with my dating life. After divorcing an emotionally unavailable man after 23 years of marriage I had two difficult, long term relationships with men who were not stepping up and I had gotten used to being treated badly.

I’d had some difficult family situations to deal with as a single mother of three twenty somethings and Evan provided me with my first ‘Aha’ moment which was when he told me ‘You’ve been a great mother to your children, and a good daughter to your elderly mother but who’s been there for you Christine?’ This actually made me cry – I had been the ‘go to’ person for my children and the men I was dating were narcissists who had me hooked but were not good men.

I needed to understand that I deserved more than this, that there were some good men out there and although it wasn’t going to be easy to find them, I believed with the new tools I had learned I could do this.

我学到了很多,做了一些好朋友Evan’s community, and that by changing my ways and gaining the support of Evan and other women in the same situation that I could get better and better. The most important thing I learned was that I didn’t actually want or need the type of man I thought I wanted. That my type was not in fact my type!

Soon, I was able to make dating fun and behave like the woman I wanted to be. I became the CEO in charge of my own life, and not subject to the whims of men. Although I had dated lots of nice men online, there was one man I had met in ‘real life’, who was there in the background. I’d placed him firmly in the ‘just friends’ box, but once I took a long, hard look at what I really wanted in a man to move forward to a healthy and satisfying relationship I realized he was all of these things. Actually, it was Evan who pointed this out and simply said ‘Date him!’

本周,我有一个提案和一个美丽的戒指 - 我们明年后会结婚。我希望你成为第一个知道的人。顺便说一下,我的女儿凯特也厌倦了一生,感谢你。抛弃那些永远不会上升的人,从洛杉矶找到一个美妙的新人,从纽约搬到了,刚刚结婚。

I now feel ‘Safe, happy and secure’… which was exactly what I wrote I was looking for in my online profile well when I first met you 8 years ago!”

Christine D